I’m embarking on a new endeavor in my life. I’ve decided to be abstinent until further notice. The purpose is for creation. This is an opportunity to give my entire self to art and use my desire/frustration for my own creative purposes. I’m going to explore alternative means of intimacy in relation to people and the world around me. I feel really good about this.
“Now, let’s talk about hash cakes. Little tip about hash cakes: just start off with one first, wait about an hour, see how you feel. Don’t eat fifteen in one go ‘cause you will see the devil, and he’ll try and rip your heart out through your kneecaps.”—Naboo the Enigma
He said: ‘They are denigrating the institution of marriage itself.
‘Marriage is not an art project, it is the life-long union of man and woman and part of that is the sexual act which is there for companionship and the raising of children.
‘At the ages of 20 and 21 you think you are invincible and think you can do anything but marriage is not just between the couple concerned, it is between them and the wider community.
‘If their parents have gone along with this charade they are equally as guilty of denigrating the whole institution of marriage and bringing the University of Worcester into disrepute.
‘If I was marking them I’d give them no marks - what has being married got to do with art?
‘Marriage is under attack from homosexual and civil partnerships which are an attempt to downgrade it.
‘It appears to be no co-incidence that the “husband” is a gay man.’
Just goes to show that Christian conservative involvement in social policy is more about power than it is about actual results.
I, on the other hand, will admit that I don’t have a background in the fine arts and I won’t presume to know how to grade a project like this (although I do love their clothes, which they made themselves). Here’s a professor:
They go and do what they say everyone should do - marry someone of the opposite sex for any reason at all because happiness is less important than going through the correct motions - and they’re still mad because the couple in question isn’t thinking the right things while doing it. They don’t want acquiescence; they want annihilation of competing ideas.
I remember when I got my hanky; it wasn’t too long ago. It’s white, and I keep it in my right-back pocket when I’m wearing clothing with back pockets (mostly my overalls). I was so excited when I got it. To me, flagging a white hanky on the right is more of a symbol of my queerness and open sexuality than for cruising (because I don’t cruise), and occasionally for wiping snot. Tonight my mom told me that I shouldn’t wear my hanky at all because of “gangs” and someone could “physically hurt me”, which I take to probably mean “rape”. I was instantly annoyed; I know my mother just wants to keep me safe but I shouldn’t have to be afraid of violence just for wearing something I like. I’m certain she doesn’t understand the queer connotations of the hanky (if she did she would certainly be opposed to me wearing it), but my hanky is a little symbol of my identity, and it makes me happy. I pointed out to her that a) it’s highly unlikely anybody mistakes me for being in a gang due to the way I dress and b) I could easily be hurt for anything else I wear like short skirts or platform boots or for having pit hair. She didn’t say anything, which typically means I have a valid point.
I’m not going to stop wearing my hanky. Except for tomorrow, because it’s full of snot and needs to be washed.
As a cosplayer and all-around geek, I think it’s awesome to see more fat/chubby/curvy people in costumes (female bodied people in particular). I recently saw a picture of a chubby girl in a Slave Leia costume next to two thinner girls, and I thought it was wonderful. Folks of all sizes enjoy costumes and I think it’s great that three women of different sizes can all be in a picture together wearing the same (rather daring) costume and be valued. Bodies of all sizes are beautiful and one size shouldn’t be valued over another, especially with something that is so much about appearance. Cosplay is about fun and should not be about body shaming. I fully support anyone of any body type cosplaying whatever they love, regardless of their size.
" Sewing and cooking are great skills for anyone to know and learning to be nurturing through play sets children up to be compassionate adults (which is a much better alternative to aggressive play)."
I agree. I wish the toys were targeted towards both genders =/
The other day I saw a Play-Dough cake-making playset, and there were little boy children on the box. I was really excited.
“The items people come up with for children astound me. First we have the toddler-sized kitchen sets which absolutely disgust me, sewing machines and kits for children, the insane popularity of dolls, and so on. Our culture does nothing but put out toy versions of the lives women have had to live for centuries. Women were and many still are expected to prepare all the meals, so little girls are given toy kitchen sets. Women must act as baby machines, so little girls are given dolls. Women must act as seamstresses and know how to replace a button, put in a new zipper, hem clothes, let them in, let them out, and so little girls are given tiny sewing machines and sewing kits. What this is doing is simply telling little girls “This will be your life in a few decades so you better get used to it and lucky for you, we’re easing you into it by first brainwashing you into thinking that it is fun.”—
This type of brainwashing thing sucks, however I am of the opinion that these types of toys/play are not inherently harmful. Sewing and cooking are great skills for anyone to know and learning to be nurturing through play sets children up to be compassionate adults (which is a much better alternative to aggressive play). I feel that, as a result of the successes of feminism, we’ve moved backwards in a way. Skills that are great for anyone to learn are regarded still as “women’s work” and are thus considered inferior. Nowadays, many women who choose a housewife lifestyle aren’t having their choices valued or respected. We’ve worked so hard on “We don’t want to be expected to do this” that the experiences and choices of women everywhere are being under represented and it has become “We don’t want to be expected do this anymore and so nobody should do it”. I think we should work to destigmatize the more “traditional” roles/activities such as the ones mentioned in the above quote and make them safe and valuable to and for everyone. Instead of “Nobody should do it”, it should be “Nobody should be made to do it, but if you want to do it that’s fine too.”
Women’s breasts, originally intended to nourish babies, are greatly fetishized by men. In a patriarchal culture, this makes them sacrosanct, so they must be covered up as something dirty. Dirty = arousing to men. (Men’s chests might be similarly arousing to women, but in a patriarchal culture, what is arousing to women is regarded as being of no real importance unless it suits male fantasy.)
Of course, as fetishized objects, boobs must also be made into ornaments (just like cars, also fetishized by men). So, they are primped and prodded, alternately bound and pumped up, displayed like prize ponies. Even if you don’t want to. (Have you tried to buy a non-wire bra recently that didn’t look like a Playtex Cross-your-heart? Good luck with that.)
When I first wrote the Subversive Scholastic essay, I got a lot of reactions from males who said, basically: You wanna take off your shirt? Hey alriiiight! Do it, babeeeeeee!
No, no and no.
If I should take off my shirt, I want you to be as lackadaisical about that as if your best male friend took off his shirt. Are you saying Hey alriiiight! to your best male friend and encouraging him to take off his shirt? Then I don’t want that either. Optimally, it would be nice if you didn’t even NOTICE.
Hey, says authoritative male voice, you can’t expect guys not to even notice, okay?
Question: Do women act like asses when men shed their tops? You know, we might be as excited about that as you are, has that ever occurred to you? But we have learned to behave ourselves. I am utterly confident that men could learn the same, if expected to.
I have seen myself as white. Today when I looked in the mirror, I saw myself as a light-skinned black person. Totally new perspective on my race.
What race I see myself as as always been weird. I’m uncomfortable around groups that aren’t predominantly white. When I look at myself in the mirror or think about myself, I’m sometimes surprised to remember that I’m not white. It’s hard to think around.
I feel the same way. We’re kind of white-socialized, eh?
“You don’t need fashion designers when you are young. Have faith in your own bad taste. Buy the cheapest thing in your local thrift shop - the clothes that are freshly out of style with even the hippest people a few years older than you. Get on the fashion nerves of your peers, not your parents - that is the key to fashion leadership. Ill-fitting is always stylish. But be more creative - wear your clothes inside out, backward, upside down. Throw bleach in a load of colored laundry. Follow the exact opposite of the dry cleaning instructions inside the clothes that cost the most in your thrift shop. Don’t wear jewelry - stick Band-Aids on your wrists or make a necklace out of them. Wear Scotch tape on the side of your face like a bad face-lift attempt. Mismatch your shoes. Best yet, do as Mink Stole used to do: go to the thrift store the day after Halloween, when the children’s trick-or-treat costumes are on sale, buy one, and wear it as your uniform of defiance.”—